Dear Lord, Please Let My Daughters Be Awkward

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It's hard to imagine that these gorgeous girls could ever go through an awkward period. But I sincerely hope they do.

Believe it or not, this is actually a prayer I’ve offered for my daughters. Strange? Maybe. Genius? Definitely.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t wish for them to be permanently awkward (although I would love them no less). Rather, one of my greatest hopes for them is to suffer through a few awkward years, and survive. The key word there is survive. I don’t want them to be scarred, or cope with their awkwardness through immoral, illegal, or otherwise dangerous behavior.

Let’s face it, life is easier for pretty people. Right or wrong, those with symmetrical faces, straight teeth and lustrous hair seem to sail through life a bit more easily. Studies have even proven that women with well-applied makeup are deemed more trustworthy!

My Awkward Survival Story

Having been through many awkward years, I can attest to the positive experiences that can result from these trials. I was always a head taller than my classmates, and suffered from terrible skin, fashion choices, hair styles and wore some awesomely large pink plastic glasses to boot. I remember a time in middle school when I overhead the love of my life (I was convinced we would get married someday) making hurtful remarks under his breath about the blemishes on my face.

I was crushed…by my crush. Now imagine if I’d had clear, glowing skin. He might have actually liked me, and maybe we would have dated. Then, we might have stayed together in high school, and later gotten married. I shudder at the thought of this, considering what he’s doing with his life now (a big, fat, nothing). (P.S. I’ve never quite forgiven him for his cruelty.)

In addition to being an acne-prone adolescent, I was also a huge nerd (still am). I was captain of the Scholar’s Bowl team, sat in the front of the classroom, and was always the first to raise my hand when the teacher asked a question (I must have been quite annoying). Believe it or not, most guys don’t like smart girls. (Idiots.)

Fortunately for me, I survived these awkward years, and even had brief stint in college when I was almost hot. I say almost because my biggest modeling gig was as a butt model for jeans at Sheplers. Yes, a butt model. I was flattered until a friend of mine noted that they “didn’t want to see my face.” Ouch. (Some friend.)

So what lessons have I learned from the awkward times in my life?

– Humility
– Empathy
– Resourcefulness

What mother wouldn’t want this for her daughter, to be more beautiful on the inside than she is on the outside? I honestly feel that these attributes are best earned the hard way, through overcoming adversity and knowing what it’s like to be on the outside looking in. I hope my girls don’t hate me someday for this prayer. (They’ll probably hate me someday either way.) And if all else fails, I’ll stick some thick plastic frames on them, dress them in outdated clothes, and force them to learn random trivia (for all of those Scholar’s Bowl matches). Oh, who am I kidding? They’ll still look cute. I guess they’ll just have to learn the lessons above by listening to their momma. :-)

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5 thoughts on “Dear Lord, Please Let My Daughters Be Awkward

  1. LOL, You and I would have been the best of friends in high school! I was the one who sat at the front of the class and always had the right answer…and even if it wasn’t right, my hand was the first one to jump up in the middle of the teacher’s thought! haha! I am still bad about that. It’s ADHD though, and I’ve learned to control it. :)

  2. Oh this post resonated with me! I was (and sometimes still am) hugely awkward as a teenager – a serial blusher and a shy loner – eek – and it was probably a saving grace in terms of my character now. I always make an effort to reach out to quiet souls on their own. In my job I teach (many of them adults with learning difficulties) and make it my goal in life to make all my students confident and comfortable with me. I know how it feels to be the uncool ignored one and would never want to inflict that pain on anyone!

  3. And look at you now “hot mama.” My kids were always stigmatized for being a “rich Lange” whether we were or not. To this day, Conway Springs doesn’t always hold great memories either for them. But, they are all accomplished college grads and will succeed in this world we live in. (Stratton is almost a college grad) And most importantly, they are all “nice” people. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

    • Patti, I can tell you I really enjoy Tiffani’s company at Bible study. She’s such a positive, fun person to be around, and offers such honest, sincere prayers. :-)

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